We are our friends

I've been going to Jackson's CNY open house party for 3 years in a row now... and every year I learn something (directly or indirectly). This year is no exception

Conversations I had today just made me regret, I was blur back when I was in secondary school. But I don't live to regret. I've realised and moved on. There's a saying "We are who we mix with" or "You can tell a person by looking at who he's/her friends are". It's true in a few cases, because friends and people/environment around us influence us. We may realise that the influencing is happening, but some people like me are blur. And it's too late when I realised.

I'm seeing a trend in conversations carried out during Jackson's open house every year. Friends who attend are the "smart, confident, intelligent and intellectual" group of from my secondary school. From college days, they/we would have conversations about our colleges/universities/studies and listening to these conversations sometimes makes me feel so small. It's like being in with a group of CEO's and me being the only executive. I admire them a lot. I'm always engrossed by all their conversations, the words that comes out from their mouths are with sense and maturity. There’s no bull talk in these conversations. You know… it’s like those ‘boring conversations’ that I love listening to.

Today, there were no more college/university chats. The question of the night was "So, where are you working now?" Everyone seems to be really well off with their career. They/We shared their plans and the table (all of us were seated in a round table...kind of like in the King Arthur story expect we were not knight in shinning armour ;P) responded with really mature and analytical feedbacks. Listening to them and myself speak, made me realise where I stood. The competition is so great. I took a look round the table and realised that these people here, will be IT in the future.

I can't help but wonder, will I be sitting with these people and be IT myself in the future… if only I chose my friends more wisely when I was young. Because it does matter. I'm not saying that I have 'bad' friends. Friends are friends and if there was anything such as bad friends, I'd learn from them. I just regret I didn't pick these people of the round table people to learn from.

Jackson's party always leave me wondering a lot. Friends play a big part in our lives, but I've only one reminder for myself, Learn the good from the bad and the bad from the good. It's always up to us to filter and absorb. And what if absorb the wrong (..substance…hahahaha just joking)? It’s all up to our self control and determination.