guys should level up in dancing

You know, guys should level up in dancing (club dancing/grooving..? general dancing?... aiyah dancing lah) just as if they are leveling up in WoW. Dancing is more than bobbing the head and stepping from left to right. Dancing is more... dancing is much more. Some people (the girls and guys) I talk to prefer to sit and drink and just listen to music. I ask them why, and they just say "Nar, I'm not the type who dances". So my question is "How would you know if you have not even tried dancing?". These are a few reasons why I think people don't dance;

1# Low self esteem/Too shy to try
You won't know until you try. If you are afraid that you will look like you are doing the chicken dance, well don't think about it because;
- all of us ARE doing the chicken dance
- heyy I have dance with real professional dancers (the crab dance) but I still found that the dance style was unique and cute
- the dance floor is way too dark and packed anyway, no one will notice how you dance
So the next time someone drags you to the dance floor, don't resist. Just dance =)

2# Ok with or like dancing, but his/her group of friends just are not into dancing/They are just not given the chance to dance
There's this believe that you have to go clubbing to dance. That's very untrue. Some restaurants have dance floors. Some pubs usually have some little space to grove. A lot of events (concerts, dinners, parties) give chances to audience to dance too! You don't have to purposely go to a dancing spot to dance, you can dance anywhere. And you don't need a partner to dance, dance first and your partner(s) will come to you.

3# Thinks that they are duds with two left feet that can't dance because they have no musicality in them
Aiyah... everyone learn to dance. If you have two left feet then just dance with two left feet. It's possible. I know people who have 3 left feet but still manage to dance :P If you can't dance to the music, this doesn't mean that you can't dance, it just means that the music is not suitable. Try dancing to a faster/slower or a different genre of music.

4# Too stubborn to try and too determine not to try ("I just hate dancing because...bla bla bla");
Be more open minded to dancing. It's not like asking you to sleep around lah. You don't even need to have body contact when you dance if you don't want to. if you feet hurts, wear a different type of shoe next time you dance. If you have had bad experience dancing, give it a few more tires. Men did not invent the wheel in a day you know. If you are still to thick headed to try ...well;
- it's good exercise
- you have one more activity when visiting the clubs, pubs or restaurant
- you can impress your partner at your wedding or at parties
- increases your self esteem, ego and bragging power
- relaxes you
For the guys,
- ladies dig men who can dance
- ladies dig men who can dance really well
- ladies dig men who can dance really well and make them feel sexy
For the ladies,
- Men dig ladies who knows now to dance
- Men dig ladies who knows now to dance especially with them
- Men dig ladies who knows now to dance especially with on them

5# Lack of alcohol
HAHAHAHA I don't think I need to elaborate on this. The title says it all.

So get your butt on the dance floor.

...still unsure how to dance, or improve? Well, here's some tips.

For beginners, pick the genre of music that you like first. No point going to a techno trance club when you like to grove to RnB. Start with listening to the beat of the music. Catch the bass, batch the tune, batch those other tunes. Then you can try to start with;

1# Bobbing your head to the music.

2# Move your shoulders/legs from left to right/front and back to the music.

3# While shoulders your arms and legs, try shifting your body weight along with it.

4# When you get the hang of it, start moving your arms. It doesn't matter how you move them, make circles, make squares, do X signs,... anything.

Ok, now have more confidence? On to the next level.

5# Start learning to coordinate your dance moves to the music. For example, when the slower music comes, try more gentle moves.

6# Make more bold moves with your arms and legs. Don't be shy to try new patterns and moves because dance moves have no rights or wrongs. Combine some movement with your arms and shoulders, or body and legs, or arms and body... or even the arms, body and legs and the head.

7# Interact with your partner if you are dancing in doubles or in a group. Dance around your partner, or twirl in front of your partner.

8# Make body contact if you are conformable with it. You can place your arms around your partner’s shoulders, waist or hips. If your partner feels uncomfortable, eye contact will do lah. Remember ladies; let it be known if you are uncomfortable with body contact, you can always also gently remove your partner’s arms from your body while dancing.

Level up. I only recommend this for those who are open to 'dirty dancing'. Highly recommend for couples *grin* a little something to spice up your dancing with your dears *hint hint to those kayu people*
Here's some moves for the men,

9# Try holding your partner hands and turning her in a circle, then place their hands over your head to your shoulders. If she doesn't let go (that means she's ok with it), you can try placing your hands around her waist. And remember to make eye contact la ;P

10# If your partner twirls in front of you, you can catch her while her back is facing you. Draw her closer to you and place your hands on her hip bones (or just wrap your arms around her) and grove with her (if she moves left, then you move left). In this position, there's no eye contact but it would be easy if you want to say or tell her something because you can just drop your head to the side of her face and tell her that you love her and give her a little peak on her cheek that she's hot tonight (but damn corny *yuck*) what you want to say to her ears.

11# Ok, this one is a little complicated to perform. This move is call the 'dip'. Hold your lady's hand, give a little distance between both of you then pull her in close to up with a firm but gentle pull. With the hand still holding her hand, place her hand on your shoulders, and your hand around her waist. At the same time, grab her free hand into a social dance position. With in a new music beats, move your arms on her waist higher to the center of her back. And then 'dip' her by putting your legs between hers and move her feet to the outside to make her loose balance and fall towards you. Support her with your hands on her back. Don't worry, she won't fall because she also have her hands around your shoulders. Remember to move the other hand to the lower center to make the dip work. Don’t dip too long tho. Pull her up again firm but gently. This will leave her with a "Woahhh what was that. It freaked me out but goshhh he's good" *wink*

And for the ladies,

9# Grab hold your man's hands on the side and slowing bring them from the sides to the top. Then bring it down to the back to your head down to your waist. Place his arms on you waist then place yours on his shoulders. If he has a nice (or not nice) bod, you can actually just bring your hand down his chest and back around his waist and place your hands in his back pockets. (Then rest your on the left side of this chest and listen if his heart is beating fast LOL)

10# You can try dancing around you man with a pole dance combo. Kind of just like grooving against a pole (like pole dancers...but more toned down... but you can to tone up its all up to you) except the pole is your man. If this is too complicated, you can just place one hand on his shoulders and walk around him , moving your hands across his back and back to the front.

11# If you are dancing with your back facing your partner (see 10# for the men), you can hold him with your arms to the back. Grab on to his waist or jam your hand to his back pocket, or just gently place your hands on the back of his neck.

Hm.. I have no idea where this entry is bringing me... I forgot what I wanted to say.. Ah well. I love dancing, that's all I can say. If you are more interested in the Melbourne Shuffle, then this entry that I wrote sometime back is more for you.